You know how you’re scrolling through Facebook and you see all these posts of people who are so much further along than you, sharing their experiences?
You get that knot in your stomach because they know way more than you do. You think, who am I to be sharing my experiences and knowledge? I shouldn’t be teaching; I feel like a fraud.
Can you relate?
I’m not a big gambler, but this is one of those bets I would definitely take – every entrepreneur has had that feeling at some point in their journey. Especially in the online world where everyone is not only sharing their knowledge but has more experience than us.
On the flip side, there’re people who know less than us. The great thing about that is that it’s still okay! There will always be people on a different chapter of their business; learning, growing, sharing, and experiencing.
But, what if we have experiences we want to share, but it’s out of the “norm”? We’re comparing ourselves to other entrepreneurs and they’re not sharing the same thing. You start to think to yourself, is my experience worth it? Will my audience enjoy it?
And then you start to lose confidence in your skills and knowledge. You begin to feel insecure and that you’re just not good enough.
You feel like a fraud.
So, what do you do about it?
Whenever you have that feeling creeping up, take a break.
For realsies. Just stop what you’re doing and walk away.
Go for a walk, do some yoga, have a little dance session, or listen to a podcast that really inspires you. Whatever it is you find most enjoyable, DO IT.
What you’re aiming for is to stop the comparison-itis in its tracks. You want to stop looking at what everyone else is doing because that’s only going to make it worse.
When your head is clear, I want you to do a little exercise. Write down all of your insane fraud thoughts and I say insane because often they’re totally, unbelievably insane. We are so hard on ourselves, it’s ridiculous.
Anyway, write them down. Externalize those thoughts because if you keep them locked up, they will drive you mad. They’ll keep running around in your mind and you won’t be able to think clearly with all of that chaos going on up in there.
So, externalize them. Put them on paper. You can even show them to someone. Then what I want you to do is prove them wrong.
One of my fraud feelings is I’m from Belgium. I don’t speak English very well. I can’t be a business coach because coaches have to speak perfectly, all the time. I’m not American so I can’t help people in English.
That was my exact insane fraud thought. I wrote down these thoughts because I wanted to prove myself wrong.
I wasn’t going to let anything get in my way of becoming a successful business coach.
Find your proof
Here’s proof on why my first excuse was completely insane: There are a ton of business coaches online that are from other countries. But not only that, their accents are much stronger than mine AND they still make a shitload of money.
Second proof for my insane logic was this: I have ALREADY helped a lot of people with my accent as a business coach.
So, right there are two reasons why my insane fraud thoughts were not correct.
And usually, one of those thoughts to prove yourself wrong is that you have had success before! Then your whole mindset shifts.
You now have the feeling that you do know what you’re talking about because of your success. BOOM! Instant gratification!
Celebrate the little things
This should then create a snowball effect of positive feelings. You begin to notice the other accomplishments that you may have brushed off as being too small. Let me tell you, no accomplishment is too small.
You MUST celebrate every little victory, no matter the size. That will keep your spirits up and feeling good about what you’re doing and accomplishing.
Remember, everyone will have a different experience, a different strategy, a different recommendation. That doesn’t mean yours isn’t as good enough as what others are putting out there.
That does mean yours is different. You bring something different to the table which is what other entrepreneurs crave. If your strategy is different than what’s out there, you’ve just hit a gold mine.
Have you ever scrolled through Pinterest and saw the same topics being covered?
But here’s the thing.
Each of those posts contains something a little different. It has their own twist or spin on it. Maybe their writing style is different, found an alternate way to accomplish that specific topic, or their storytelling is super engaging.
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Feeling like an imposter comes from within
You’re in your head thinking, I feel like a fraud.
Instead of focusing on you, start focusing on others. Think about the people you want help because all that time you feel like a fraud could be time spent helping other people. #truthbomb
You have already helped a lot of people so what makes you think you can’t help more? You’re just wasting time and only getting deeper into the bottomless pit of self-loathing.
The next step is to stop whining and start doing. Because let’s face it, you can’t 100% think your way through getting confidence.
The only real solution to get confidence is to put yourself out there and take action. Even if it’s just the little things.
I’m not asking you to hop on a call with a lot of people right after you feel this way, but you can send a message to someone to connect.
You could put up a new post that shows a different side of you. Don’t be afraid to get personal or vulnerable because I promise you, you’ll gain a ton of respect from your audience.
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Too many times entrepreneurs only show one side of their life when in reality, it’s far from perfect. But, their audience would never know. It’s hard to create a connection with someone when there isn’t much to relate to – our lives are NEVER perfect!
You can also talk to your business bestie or even your coach. Whatever your outlet is, make sure you’re taking action and focusing on helping others.
Remember, whenever you feel like you’re just not good enough, take a break. Disconnect from your work and let your mind recharge. Write down your fraud thoughts and make a game plan to prove yourself wrong.
I promise you, you’ll move mountains.
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